COMPLAINING WIFE/GIRLFRIEND.....here is what to do...

For a few days I observed that Jules complaints a lot listening to which I started to wonder howcome she has such a negative view of everything. Initially I tried to find solutions , tried to motivate her to develop a positive outlook, even tried to fight, thinking that this might bring some change in her. But all the above approaches proved futile. She is still the same.  Complaints about fitting of her socks to colour of her shirt, about the Metro to colleague in office. All day long. 
Though I know it sounds irritating but as you know very well that HUSBANDS are not allowed to get irritated or angry :) . Also I didnot wanted that to happen as we have our whole life ahead and I knew that Getting irritated will not get us anywhere. So I sat thinking about it and then there  came that LIGHTBULB idea :) . I googled it and there came thousands of results. I started reading them and came to know a few facts which helped me to deal with the issue.

First thing to know is that male and female deal with stress differently. This is because the levels of hormones secreted in brain to fight stress are different in men and women. Thus through study and observation I can now tell you that women fight stress by talking about it to someone. That is when your wife is complaining about something she is not actually complaining but sharing it with you. Letting it out by talking about it makes her/women feel better. 
So what should you do to tackle it. The answer is nothing. You only have to listen and give her a warm shoulder of support and sympathy. This will make her feel better. Accept it that whenever she will be in stress that is the how its going to be, this life and all other lives that you will be with her.
Another point of caution is never stress yourself in trying to find a solution. If easily possible then fine else let it be. This is because if you solve one issue that will not end complaining. Something else will come up. It is like weed that keeps on growing no matter howmany times you cut it. 

Thus the conclusion is be there for her , support her, sympathise her when she is complaining because she cannot help it. That is the way nature has wired her brain. It is not her fault and she cannot do anything about it. Be Together Be Happy :)


Comments

Pushpa said…
Kudos Shivam.Your efforts in trying to understand Juliet and strive for her happiness are commendable.Your perspective towards the issue as well as your positive approach to resolve it reflects the depth of your unconditional love and care for her combined with your superb intellect:)
I am glad that there are smart youths who do invest quality time to understand and groom their relationship and they indeed would be the ones who would be blessed with many special and celebrating moments in their relationship.

May you both keep exploring the avenues for each other's happiness always like this and blessed with happiness eternally.


Pushpa

June 10, 2016 at 5:01 PM
Shivam Tyagi said…
Thank you so much Pushpa for such a beautiful appreciation. Thank u so much . :)
June 10, 2016 at 7:27 PM
Satpal said…
And its a sort of truth.. to be implemented, pay attention, listen and let bygone if screwed. Tis all about hers..!
Commendable article !
June 11, 2016 at 9:53 AM
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